
Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast
Dana CheWhy Did This Happen? (Healing After Infidelity)
March 11, 2025 ● 27 minShare this episode
One of the questions every betrayed spouse grapples with when dealing with infidelity is, "Why did this happen?" Infidelity can be one of the most challenging obstacles a marriage may face. Understanding the 'why' is crucial because every affair has a reason. It’s essential here to distinguish between a reason and an excuse. While reasons offer insights into underlying issues, excuses deflect responsibility. The truth is infidelity is always a choice, a willful decision, in nearly every case.
This episode outlines five reasons that commonly underlie affairs, including:
- emotional disconnection
- unresolved personal issues
- lack of boundaries
- unmet needs
- personal crises.
It’s important to note that while these reasons might explain why an affair happened, they don't excuse the betrayal.
We also discuss “What now” after an affair has happened. If you find yourself in the unfortunate situation of infidelity, there is hope and healing is possible whether you stay in or leave your marriage.
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Reeling from Infidelity? Get my “Affair Recovery Checklist” and take the first next steps toward healing.
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