10 Things Every Wife Should be Doing for Her Husband
November 03, 2017
Things Wives Should Do 1: Touch Him
[caption id="attachment_41578" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/KristinaJovanovic[/caption] I’m not talking about behind closed doors. I’m talking about in the car, in the grocery store, on the couch, or as you bump into each other in the kitchen. Touch is a powerful connector; it shows affection, offers intimacy, and communicates “I love you” without a single word. Even though your husband may not act like he needs that kind of affection connection, he probably does. He may not even realize it. This week, make a conscious effort to get physical. See how he reacts when you sit close to him the way you did when you were dating, when you take his hand during a movie, or when you rub his shoulders after work. He’s yours to love. Take advantage of the fact that you’re the only woman who gets to touch him this way. [/slide]Things Wives Should Do 2: Show Him Respect
[caption id="attachment_41579" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/Ridofranz[/caption] Respect isn’t about letting him make every decision and then going along blindly. Respect is about trusting him as your life partner, and treating him the way you want to be treated. It is also about considering his thoughts before you make decisions, and talking things out and working as a team. RELATED: 10 Areas of Your Husband’s Life to Pray against Satanic Attack A lot of responsibilities come along with the words, “I do.” Respect is trusting him to take care of those things he’s promised to take on so you’re free to handle the things you’ve promised to take on.Things Wives Should Do 3: Carry His Burden
[caption id="attachment_41580" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock[/caption] You don't have to be alone. It's one of the best parts of being married. The second you exchange rings, you have a best friend, roommate, and life partner who is exclusively yours. You don’t have to go through life as a single person, and neither does he. RELATED: Six Healthy Marriage Tips There will be seasons of your life and in your marriage where one of you will need to take the lead and be strong for the other. Your hardships are his and his are yours. Step in when you see him struggling. Offer to carry the load while he catches his breath. Be his strength and his respite. [/slide]Things Wives Should Do 4: Speak His Love Language
[caption id="attachment_41581" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/demaerre[/caption] Maybe I should start with learn his love language—it’s not always yours. You may feel loved when he makes dinner or brings you a gift, but when you reciprocate, he may not react the way you want if he sees love differently than you. Take the time to notice what makes him feel closer to you; what makes him smile, what makes him feel special, and what makes him feel like your number one. And if you’re not good at reading him, ask. I’m betting he’ll be happy to tell you.Things Wives Should Do 5: Let Him Be Himself
[caption id="attachment_41582" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/monkeybusinessimages[/caption] He got your attention with his out-of-the-box personality, his crooked smile, the way he laughed during TV shows that weren’t really funny, and…you fill in the blank with all the things you loved about your guy when you first became a couple. So why do so many of us try to change our husbands after the wedding? Life will shape him. He’ll grow, adapt, and change with God’s help, not yours. Let him be the man you married. Accept him for who he is now. Give him room to figure out who he is later. And never stop falling in love with the man he’s becoming. [/slide]Things Wives Should Do 6: Give Him Space
[caption id="attachment_41583" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/digitalskillet[/caption] You’re married. You live together, sleep together, maybe work together or parent together— that’s a lot of together. But you don’t have to suffocate each other. RELATED: 5 Powerful Prayers Every Wife Needs to Pray over Her Husband Does he need a few minutes when he walks in the door to transition from work to home? Gift him with space to decompress. Does he need guy time? Encourage him in his friendships. Even the closest couple needs time apart. Whether that time apart lasts minutes or hours, figure that out and allow him what he needs to recharge. You’d want the same consideration.Things Wives Should Do 7: Treat Him Better than a Stranger
[caption id="attachment_41584" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/SiriStafford[/caption] It sounds weird, I know. But how many times are we more considerate of someone we don’t know than we are to those closest to us? I’m not suggesting we hold ourselves aloof, keep our needs to ourselves, or become doormats; I am suggesting we treat our husbands better than anyone else we meet. Think about it this way: when we’re with someone we don’t know very well, we don’t let our emotions get the best of us, we don’t demand things, and we try our hardest to be polite. What if we expended a little energy to tone down our tempers, to ask for what we need, and to care about what he needs? Try treating him better than a stranger and see what happens. [/slide]Things Wives Should Do 8: Expend the Effort
[caption id="attachment_41585" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock[/caption] I’m sure you’ve heard, “marriage isn’t 50/50, it’s 100/100”. But that’s not quite accurate. Sometimes it’s 20/80, 40/60, or 70/30. Sometimes you will need to give more than he does. This can be hard, especially if you feel as though he’s never taking his turn. But if you want the marriage to work, accept that the same truth that applies in life—it’s not fair—also applies to your relationship. Notice I’m not saying that it’s your job to do all the work, because it isn’t. In an ideal world, you both do the work and you both reap the benefits. Sadly, we don’t live in an ideal world. But here’s what I’ve discovered: if expending the effort becomes a struggle, don’t make it about what he wants or what you think is expected of you—take it to God. Ask Him exactly what you need to give. He knows your husband better than you do, and He’s rooting for your relationship. He won’t steer you wrong; instead, He’ll give you the grace to follow through.Things Wives Should Do 9: Ask Questions
[caption id="attachment_41586" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/AntonioGuillem[/caption] Remember when you used to be interested in everything he did, everywhere he went, and everyone he was with? The details of his life couldn’t come detailed enough. Sometime along the marriage road, we all get caught up in ourselves—our jobs, our responsibilities, our kids, the daily crisis we’re left to manage—and we forget we’re part of an “us.” As we pay less and less attention to what goes on in our husband’s day, we start to drift apart. RELATED: These 9 Prayers Can Restore Your Marriage Remember, the guy you’re married to is not only your roommate, he’s your friend and the other half of your team. Make an effort to know what’s going on his life when he’s not with you. Ask him questions, and listen when he shares. Be the person he turns to for advice. [/slide]Things Wives Should Do 10: Be Still and Pray
[caption id="attachment_41587" align="aligncenter" width="750"] Credit: ©Thinkstock/fizkes[/caption] There’s a time to ask questions, and then there’s a time to be there. If you’re paying attention, you’ll know how to differentiate the two. Sometimes talking makes it worse. Sometimes he just can’t tell you what’s going on or what he needs. Sometimes life just gets too hard. Don’t beg him for what you need. Pray. Don’t argue with him over and over. Pray. Don’t nag him to do what you feel is right. Pray. And don’t give up. Ever. Just pray. Lori Freeland is a freelance author from Dallas, Texas with a passion to share her experiences in hopes of connecting with other women tackling the same issues. She holds a bachelor's degree in psychology from the University of Wisconsin-Madison and is a full-time homeschool mom. You can find Lori at lafreeland.com. Credit: Crosswalk YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: 10 Things Wives Want To Hear From Their HusbandsToday's Devotional
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